Dreams of a cheating partner are among the most common dreams reported. These dreams are often so emotionally disturbing that it’s not unusual to accuse your partner of cheating when you wake up. In reality, cheating dreams are often related to your own low self-esteem or guilty conscience.
Dreaming that your partner is cheating on you
May be a result of your own insecurities and fear of not being attractive or good enough. You may be feeling neglected by your partner which is feeding your insecurities and afraid that they will be leaving or abandoning you.
May be a result of a lack of trust in the relationship. The dream offers you the chance to examine your issues with trust and the trustworthiness of your partner.
It may be that your unconscious is picking up cues that your partner is actually cheating, or is unhappy in the relationship. The dream is offering you a warning and an opportunity to open the lines of communication before things go too far.
To dream that you are cheating may suggest that you are not being honest with yourself about something in waking life or you may be questioning if you are cheating yourself out of something you deserve because you feel you don’t deserve it.
May be a projection of your own infidelity or guilt over being attracted to someone else.
Dreaming that you are cheating on your partner
May be a simple wish fulfillment or a desire for something new and exciting. The dream is providing an opportunity to safely explore your sexuality.
It may also be a result of feeling guilty because you are finding yourself physically attracted to someone else.
The “other” man or woman in the dream may represent your animus (the masculine aspects of a woman) or your anima (the feminine aspects of a man) which you are learning to “love”, accept and integrate within you.
Dreaming that someone is cheating at a game.
May suggest that you are not being honest with yourself about something in waking life and you are projecting your guilty conscience on to someone else.
You may be feeling cheated out of something that you feel entitled to in waking life.
You may have witnessed some wrongdoing during the day that only registered at a subconscious level.
Dreaming that you are cheating at a game
May suggest that you are not being honest with yourself about something in waking life or you may have a guilty conscience over something you did during the day.
You may be questioning if you are cheating yourself out of something you deserve because a part of you feels that you don’t deserve it.
Figures of Speech to Consider
These are some common idioms related to cheating that may or may not make sense in the context of your dream. You may think of others which can help you interpret what your dream means to you.
- cheating death (to survive something that should be fatal).
- Cheaters never prosper. (Someone who cheats doing business will lose clients/customers and will fail in the end.)
Being cheated on in a dream can often feel so real that you actually go and accuse your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend or significant other of it. Such dreams are unsettling and disturbing. It often leaves you questioning your relationship. Often dreams about infidelity are rarely about cheating, but rather more about your own feelings of insecurity. So what is this dream exactly about?
Being cheated on points to neglect: A lack of attention from your mate may trigger a dream where your mate is having an affair. Since they are not paying attention to you, then you start to think that their attention is focused on someone else. Perhaps your significant other is working longer hours or traveling more or spending more time at the gym. All is innocent, but your dreaming mind manifests time spent away from you as an affair.
Being cheated on points to fear of abandonment: To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you also indicates your fears of being abandoned. You are concerned about the future and whether your significant other will be there for you. Perhaps you are waiting for a commitment from your significant other. Often such dreams may occur because you were abandoned before by an ex, by a parent or important person in your life.
Being cheated on points to low self-esteem:When you feel unworthy, inadequate or that you do no measure up to the expectation of others, you may dream that your lover is cheating on you. You have a low sense of self-worth and feel that there is no reason for your mate to stay with you. Consider who your significant other is cheating with in your dream. Is this person someone who you think is better than you in some way? Are they handsomer, prettier, thinner, richer, smarter, etc?
Being cheated on points to lack of trust: Trust is an important element in a relationship. If that trust is compromised, then you may express doubt in the relationship. One of these doubts can manifest itself as a adulterous dream.
Being cheated on points to actual cheating: In rare cases, your cheating dream may be about actual cheating in your relationship. You may be overlooking cues or hints that your subconscious is picking up to indicate that your significant other is not being completely truthful or is not fully committed in the relationship. Or perhaps you have been in denial about the infidelity.
Being the cheater in your dream: To dream that you are the one having an affair suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You have compromised your beliefs or integrity. Sometimes the cheating may not be about your relationship, but rather a situation where you cheated or where you were being dishonest.
Alternatively, your affair with someone else may be about some quality in this person that you need to incorporate or acknowledge within your own self. For example, if you are cheating on your mate with your boss, then the dream may signify your desires for control, power and authority.
Cheating dreams may also reflect the intensity of your sexual passion; you are exploring areas of your sexuality. In this scenario, the dream may actually serve as a reaffirmation of your commitment to your relationship. If you are approaching your own wedding date, then it is not uncommon to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than your intended spouse. Such a dream represents the newness of your sexual passion. It is important to note that such a dream does not mean that you will stray or that your dream is telling you that you are with the wrong person.
Still another dream interpretation of your infidelity suggests that your needs are not being satisfied by your significant other. As a result, you start to look elsewhere. You feel that there is something more out there.
Conclusion: Even though dreams about cheating are hardly about actual cheating, it is still important to address the emotions that brought about the cheating dream. Feelings of neglect, insecurity and mistrust are things that should be confronted and discussed in any personal relationship in order for the partnership to grow. It is time to let your guard down and open a dialogue with your significant other..