Sex plays a major part in our dream world for many of us. This depends of its importance in our everyday lives. It’s a powerful driving force, like hunger and ambition. While we’re awake, sex is ruled by social restrictions and conventions, but in our dreams, even the most timid of us can have explicit and excitingly sexy dreams once our repressed selves are asleep. Sexual dreams are very coming during puberty.In many cases, dreaming of sex isn’t really about sex. From a psychological perspective, dreams about having sex may symbolize the merging of contrasting aspects of yourself or a need to incorporate aspects of your dream sex partner into yourself.
To dream about sex refers to the integration and merging of contrasting aspects of yourself. It represents psychological completion. You need to be more receptive and incorporate aspects of your dream sex partner into your own character. Consider the nature of the love-making. Was it passionate? Was it slow? Was it wild? The sex act parallels aspects of yourself that you wish to express. A more direct interpretation of the dream may be your libido’s way of telling you that it has been too long since you have had sex. It may indicate repressed sexual desires and your needs for physical and emotional love. If you are looking for a place to have sex, then the dream may be analogous to your search for intimacy and closeness. You want to rekindle some relationship. If you dream of having sex in a public place, then the dream implies that others are talking about your private relationship.
To dream about sex with someone other than your spouse or significant other suggests dissatisfaction with the physical side of your relationship. On the other hand, it may be harmless fantasy. In such situations, you may find that you are less inhibited sexually. Perhaps you need to bring the same sense of adventure into your existing relationship.
To dream that you are having sex with an ex or someone who is not your current mate denotes your reservations about embarking in a new relationship or situation. You may feel nervous about exposing yourself and are feeling a resurgence of those old emotions and feelings that you felt back when you and your ex were together. If you are approaching your wedding date, then is not uncommon to experience especially erotic adventures with partners other than your intended spouse. This may be due to the intensity of the sexual passion with your fiance. It also relates to the new roles that you will be taking on and the uncertainty that that may bring.
To dream that you are having sex with a stranger represents uncertainty about what is ahead. Alternatively, the dream allows you to experiment freely without having any hang ups, emotional baggage or preconceived notions associated with a person you would know. In such a scenario, you are able to let loose and express your desires, passions and emotions. In particular, if you dream of having sex with multiple partners at the same time, then it indicates that you are feeling detached in your personal relationship. You feel that sex is just an act devoid of any emotion or passion. Perhaps your sex life has become too automated.
To dream that you are having sex with a friend refers to the closeness you share with your friend. Because you two share so much between each other and know so much about each other, the dreaming mind may depict this closeness as sex. Alternatively, such a dream indicates a level of attraction between you and your friend, but you are too afraid to act on it. Thus your desires are manifested in a dream.
If you are heterosexual and you dream that you are having sex with someone of the same sex, then it represents an expression of greater self love and acceptance. You need to be in better touch of your feminine or masculine side. The dream does not necessarily imply homosexual desire.
To dream that you are having sex with a celebrity indicates your drive to be successful. You are striving for recognition. Consider what movies you associate this celebrity with for clues as to where and what you want to achieve success in.
To see others having sex in your dream refers to your own desires to be more adventurous in your own sex life.
To see your parents having sex in your dream indicate that you are seeing similar aspects between their relationship and your current relationship. Most cringe at the thought of your parents having sex, so this dream imagery is really trying to get your attention. Consider your parents’ real life relationship together and what you can learn from it.
To dream that you are the opposite sex suggests that you need to incorporate certain qualities of the opposite sex. Ask yourself how do you feel being a man or a woman? In what ways can you incorporate those feelings into your waking life.
Dreaming that you are watching your girlfriend have sex with someone else suggests that you are taking a passive role in your sex life. Maybe you feel that you are not satisfying her. The dream is signaling you to communicate your sexual concerns and/or desires. Alternatively, the dream may reflect a personal fantasy you have.
In many cases, dreaming of sex isn’t really about sex. From a psychological perspective, dreams about having sex may symbolize the merging of contrasting aspects of yourself or a need to incorporate aspects of your dream sex partner into yourself. Consider your dream partner and what it is that you admire or love about them for an idea of what you are trying to merge into yourself. In some instances it may be a safe way to release pent up or repressed sexual desire; you may be exploring your own needs and desires; or it may be compensating for a lack of having a physical relationship in waking life. It may also be suggestive of a need for emotional love or desire to be loved and wanted.
Sexual partners in dreams: Dreaming of sex with someone other than your spouse or significant other or with a fantasy lover may be wish fulfillment. Alternately, if you spend a lot of time having or thinking about sex in waking life, it may be a continuation of your waking life thoughts and actions.
Sleeping with your ex may be an indication that you are coming to terms with and accepting the end of the relationship; or that you have learned from the experience and you are incorporating what you learned into yourself. Your ex may also be representing a new relationship, perhaps as a warning that you don’t want to repeat the same mistakes. If you are still in love with your ex, then dreams about having sex with your ex may be wish fulfillment.
To have sex with a stranger may symbolize a new you that is emerging due to changes you are going through. The stranger may also indicate you are open to a change or a new opportunity that is underway.
Having homosexual relations – If you are a heterosexual, having sex with a same-sex partner does not mean you are homosexual or that you have homosexual desires. Instead it is usually an indication you are learning to love and accept yourself as you are, or you are merging or incorporating aspects of your dream partner into yourself.
Interpretations of different sexual acts
The sexual act itself will also provide more insight as to the meaning of the dream. Search the dream dictionary for the specific sexual act for further analysis of your sex dreams. A standard missionary position may symbolize being bored or dissatisfied with your sex life, or your life in general. If you are doing or seeing something that you haven’t or wouldn’t do in waking life, the dream may be providing the opportunity to safely experience it.
To dream of a sado-masochistic act or acts may be an indication that you are hurting yourself, hurting others or are allowing others to hurt you in some aspect of waking life that doesn’t necessarily have to relate to sex. You may be treating yourself badly or neglecting your health in waking life. It may also symbolize an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.
Searching for a place to have intercourse may reflect your search for love in waking life or your desire for a more intimate physical or emotional relationship. Having sex in public may be an indication that you may regret revealing too much of yourself to others.
To dream of having unprotected sex may be symbolizing your fear of getting pregnant. You may also be feeling unsafe or threatened in waking life.
If you are unable to complete the sexual act then it may be suggestive of having an unsatisfactory waking sex life or an inability to express yourself or communicate with your waking life partner; or it may be that there are opposing aspects of yourself that you are unable or unwilling to accept. It may also indicate an inability to complete something else in waking life. You may be feeling impotent, unfulfilled or ineffective in some aspect of waking life.
Interpretation of watching porn
If you are watching others have sex, or watching a pornographic movie, you may be feeling insecure about your own sexuality. Watching others may be a way to safely learn about different sexual acts and/or explore your own sexual needs and desires. It may also be suggestive of a need for emotional love or desire to be loved and wanted. Watching porn may symbolize boredom and a need for stimulation in other aspects of waking life; or it may be compensating for a lack of sexual activity in waking life; or may be filling a desire to watch it in waking life. Alternately, if you spend a lot of time watching or looking at porno in waking life, it may be a continuation of your waking life thoughts and actions.
Abstinence – To dream that you practice abstinence from drinking, sex or any other sort of sensual temptation is a warning against being over confidant. You need to take things more slowly.
Adultery–To dream that you commit adultery or have an affair, signifies your sexual urges and desires that are longing to be expressed. Alternatively, it indicates self-betrayal from your subconscious. You may find yourself entangled in a situation that is not in your best interest, perhaps even illegal.
To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you highlights your insecurities and your fears of being abandoned. You feel that you are being taken for granted. You may feel some lack of attention in the relationship or that he or she is being less affectionate. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others.
AIDS – To dream that you have AIDS indicates that your psychological integrity is being attacked. You are unable to defend your position in some matter.
To dream that your mate has AIDS suggests that the relationship may be a destructive one.
Anal Sex –To dream about anal sex represents submission. You may be afraid to yield to the wants and desires of others.
Bisexual – If you are not bisexual and dream that you are, then it may indicate some sexual repression. You may be trying to compensate for your lack of sexual expression. Alternatively, it may represent general sexual confusion. Bondage –To dream that you are in bondage, signifies that aspects of your emotions and/or character are too tightly controlled or that are repressed. You may be restricting your need for self-expression or feel that you are a prisoner of your circumstances. In a sexual sense, dreams of bondage represents your desires to be more sexually submissive or that you have unacknowledged sexual passions.
Breasts –To see breasts in your dream symbolizes primal nourishment and your need to be nursed and care for. It represent motherhood, nurturance, and infantile dependency. Alternatively, breasts represents sexual arousal and raw energy. Seeing naked breasts can also denote a feeling of exposure and invasion of privacy. In particular, for a woman, the dream may indicate anxieties about becoming a woman/mother.
Brothel – To dream that you are in a brothel indicates dissatisfaction and deprivation in your emotional or sexual relationship. Your physical urges need attention.
Castration – To dream of a castration signifies your overwhelming fears that you have lost your virility or feelings of sexual pressure. Alternatively, it represents a lack of creativity.
Celibacy – To dream that you are celibate represents your fears of intimacy. You may be trying to block off your sexual energies.
Chastity Belt – To see or wear a chastity belt in your dream signifies your attitudes and feelings toward sex. Alternatively, the dream may be a metaphor to indicate that you are being overly protective. Perhaps your way of thinking of outdated.
Condom – To see a wrapped condom in your dream, represents your one-sided viewpoints. You are not allowing others to voice their opinions. It also symbolizes sexual possibilities.To see an unwrapped condom in your dream indicates sexual frustration. Additionally, it may also indicate that you are experiencing some anxiety about pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.To dream that you or your partner is wearing a condom, suggests that you feel emotionally protected.
Contraceptive – To see or use contraceptive in your dream suggests that you are refusing to let your creativity emerge from beneath the surface. You are holding back some aspect of yourself. Alternatively, it signifies your anxieties about pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.
Cross-Dressing – To dream that you or someone is cross-dressing, indicates that you need to express and acknowledge your masculine side if you are female or your feminine side if you are a man.
Dominatrix – To dream that you are a dominatrix, represents your need for power and control. Alternatively, it suggests that you are experiencing an elevated sense of spirituality.
Ejaculation – To dream that you are ejaculating, represents your need for release. You can no longer contain yourself, either emotionally or sexually. Alternatively, it signifies a loss of control and power.
Erection – To dream that you have an erection, symbolizes your creative power and energy. You want to take action. Alternatively, if you are a man and dream of an erection, then it suggests a fear of impotence or sexual dysfunction.
Erotica – To dream of erotica, represents your sexual desires and your sexual appetite. The dream may also be a result from watching porn, erotic movies or reading erotic novels.
Dreams of erotica are common dreams if you are approaching you wedding day. This may be due to the intensity of your sexual passion with your fianc. It also relates to the new roles that you will be taking on and the uncertainty that that may bring. If you are recovering from an injury, surgery, grief or illness, then you may also experience erotic dreams. The dream may serve to provide a dramatic reminder of your vitality and liveliness.
Fetishes – To dream that you have a fetish indicates a lack of maturity or capabilities. It may also be symbolic of a fear.
Foreplay – To dream about foreplay indicates your unfulfilled desires and wishes.
Hermaphrodite – To see or dream that you are a hermaphrodite represents the union of opposites and balance.
Herpes – To dream that you or someone has herpes, refers to your sexual anxiety and worries. Perhaps you have practiced unsafe sex and are expressing your regrets.
Homosexual – To dream that you are homosexual (but you are not in your waking life), represents a union with aspects of yourself. It is symbolic of self-love, self-acceptance, and compassion. If you are un comfortable with homosexuality in your dream, then it suggests some fears or anxieties about your masculinity (if you are male) and femininity (if you are female). You may be experiencing some insecurity in your relations with the opposite sex.
To dream that the guy you like in real life is gay represents your anxieties and fears that he won’t like you back. If he was gay, then it would be easier to dismiss your feelings for him. And it would be easier for you to say that you have no chance with him. On a side note, it is common for expectant fathers to have dreams of homosexual encounters. If you are homosexual in your waking life, then the dream is simply a reflection of your own self.
Impotence – To dream that you are impotent signifies a fear of losing power. Maybe you are afraid that you won’t measure up to a particular person or task in your life. A more direct interpretation suggest that you may be having problems with sex in your waking life.
Incest – If this dream relates to real-life experiences with incest, then you need to seek professional advice or counseling. To dream of incestuous practices signifies erotic desires. It may also be representative of the union between feminine and masculine aspects of yourself. You are at a phase in your life where you are not quite a child and not quite an adult, and thus this dream may be symbolic of the merging of the child and adult within yourself. Alternatively, if you have been arguing with this family member and are expressing your desire to make up, then the dream may be trying to depict forgiveness in an extreme way.
Infidelity – To dream of infidelity (either by you or someone else) represents issues of abandonment and neglect in a relationship. Or you are feeling emotionally confined and need an outlet for your feelings. Alternatively, a dream of infidelity indicates that you are feeling unsatisfied with your current relationship. You are harboring guilt over a sexual relationship or you are looking for a more exotic sex life.
Kiss – To dream of a kiss denotes love, affection, tranquility, harmony, and contentment. To see others kissing in your dream suggests that you are too involved in their personal lives and relationship. You need to give them some space. If the dream ends just about you are about to kiss someone, indicates that you are unsure of how he or she really feels about you. You are looking for some sort of relationship with this person but you are not sure about how to go about achieving it. If you are heterosexual and you dream that you are kissing someone of the same sex, then it represents self-acceptance. You are acknowledging the feminine or masculine side. To dream that you are kissing someone’s hand signifies respect. To dream that you are kissing someone else’s boyfriend or girlfriend indicates your wish to be in a relationship and to experience the energy of love. You may be sexually acting out and desire to awaken your passion. Alternatively, it indicates a lack of integrity on your part. If you dream that you are kissing a stranger, represents acknowledgement and acceptance of the repressed aspect of yourself.
If you are kissing a close friend, then it represents your respect and adoration for your friend. You are seeking some intimate closeness that is lacking in some waking relationship. It may or may not signify a romantic interest for him or her. To dream of kissing an enemy signifies betrayal, hostility, or reconciliation with an angry friend. Consider also the saying “this kiss of death”. If you are kissed by a stranger, then your dream is one of self-discovery. You need to get more acquainted with some aspect of yourself.
Dreaming of giving or receiving a bloody kiss symbolizes the depth of your passion. You do not hold back in your relationship and tend to give your full self into it.
Love – To dream of love or being in love suggests intense feelings carried over from a waking relationship. It implies happiness and contentment with what you have and where you are in life. On the other hand, you may not be getting enough love in your daily life. We naturally long for the sense to belong and to be accepted. To see a couple in love or expressing love to each other indicates much success ahead for you. To dream that your friend is in love with you may be one of wish fulfillment. Perhaps you have developed have developed feelings for your best friend and are wondering how he or she feels. You are so preoccupied with these thoughts that it is evitable that it find its way into your dreaming mind. On the other hand, the dream may also suggests that you have accepted certain qualities of your best best friend and incorporated into your own character.
To dream that you are making love in public or in different places, relates to some overt sexual issue or need. Your dream may be telling you that you need to express yourself more openly. Alternatively, it represents your perceptions about your own sexuality in the context of politic and social norms. You may be questioning your feelings about sex, marriage, love, and gender roles.
Masochism – To dream about masochism, suggests your need to experience and feel things at an extreme level. Alternatively, the dream indicates that you are sacrificing yourself. You feel that you have to suffer for your past mistakes.
Masturbation – To dream that you are masturbating represents your unacknowledged and unexpressed sexual needs/desires. It may also indicate you need to take care of yourself in sensual or emotional ways which are not necessarily sexual. Or perhaps, you may need to put forth a little more effort toward some relationship.
To see others masturbating in your dreams denotes your anxieties and concerns about your inhibitions. It may also be a reflection that something in your waking life is not as satisfying as it could be. Keep in mind that this dream may not necessarily represent sexual inhibitions or satisfaction, but may be analogous to some situation or relationship.
Naked – To dream that you are naked denotes the fear of being found out and exposed about your activities and misjudgment.To dream that you suddenly discover your nudity and are trying to cover up signifies your vulnerability to a situation. To see a naked person in your dream and you are disgusted by it signifies some anxiety about discovering the naked truth about that person or situation. It may also foretell of an illicit love affairs, loss of prestige and scandalous activities. On the other hand, if you do not have any problem with another’s nudity, then it implies that you see through people and accept them for who and what they are.
Oral Sex – To dream that you are giving or receiving oral sex signifies your willingness to give or receive pleasure/joy. It is symbolic of your creative energy and reaffirms that you are headed in the right direction in life. The dream may also be a pun on ” talking about sex.” Perhaps, you need to communicate with your mate about your sexual needs and desires. Or you are acting out your sexual wishes.To dream that you are performing oral sex on yourself represents your need for self-gratification.
Orgasm – To dream that you are having an orgasm represents an exciting end to something. What have you just completed in your life? Alternatively, the dream means that you are not getting enough sex. You need to relieve some of your sexual tensions. To dream that you do not achieve orgasm signifies some frustration in your life. Something is leaving you unfulfilled and unsatisfied. Note that the frustration may not necessarily be sexually related.
Orgy – To see an orgy in your dream signifies repressed desires of your own sexuality and passion. Perhaps you are too conservative in your sex life and need to experiment. It may also mean that there is some sort of confusion in how and where you distribute your energies. You may be going into too many directions and as a result, are spread too thin.
Penis – To see a penis in your dream signifies sexual energy, power, aggression, and fertility, especially if the penis is erect. If the penis is flaccid, then it points to sexual frustration. To dream that someone says that saw your penis means that you are dealing with some sexual matter in a roundabout or indirect way.To dream that your penis falls or snaps off implies a loss of power. You feel you are losing an important part of your identity. If you dream that your penis is detachable, then it refers to your desire to temporarily escape from the demands of your waking life. Dreaming of seeing a penis of a family member indicates an awkward situation that you are trying to avoid or overlook. For a man to see an exceptionally large penis suggests doubts and anxieties about sexual performance, drive and libido. For a woman to dream about a penis symbolizes overt sexuality and raw sexual desires.
Pervert – To see a pervert in your dream suggests that you are having issues with closeness in some relationship. You are trying to keep your distance and avoid from getting hurt.
Pregnant – To dream that you are pregnant symbolizes an aspect of yourself or some aspect of your personal life that is growing and developing. You may not be ready to talk about it or act on it. This may also represent the birth of a new idea, direction, project or goal.
To dream that you are pregnant with the baby dying inside of you suggests that a project you had put a lot of effort into is falling apart and slowly deteriorating. Nothing works out the way you want it to.
If you are really pregnant and having this dream, then it represents your anxieties about the pregnancy. Women in the first trimester of their pregnancy tend to dream of tiny creatures, fuzzy animals, flowers, fruit and water. In the second trimester, dreams will reflect your anxieties about being a good mother and concerns about possible complications with the birth. Dreams of giving birth to a non-human baby are also common during this period of the pregnancy. Finally, in the third trimester, dreams consists of your own mother. As your body changes and grows, dreams of whales, elephants and dinosaurs and other larger animals may also start appearing at this stage.
Pregnancy Test – To dream that you are taking a pregnancy test may be a metaphor for a new phase you are entering in your life (a new job, relationship, etc.) You may feel that you are being put to the test as to whether you are prepared or ready for these changes. Alternatively, this dream may be literal in meaning and address your anxieties/fears of getting pregnant.
Prostitute– To dream that you are a prostitute indicates your desires for more sexual freedom/expression and sexual power. You want to be less inhibited and possibly explore other areas of sexuality. Your waking principle are too rigid. On a negative side, you may be harboring feelings of guilt and negative attitudes toward relationships. You are having difficulties integrating love and sexuality. Alternatively, the dream may be a metaphor suggesting that you are “prostituting” yourself in some situation emotionally or morally. Are you selling yourself in some way? To dream that you are with a prostitute, suggests that you are feeling sexually deprived/needy. Alternatively, you may be feeling that sexual relationships were more simple and straightforward.
Pubic Hair – To see pubic hair in your dream suggests that you are coyly making your sexual feelings known.
Rape – To dream that you have been raped suggests a sadistic expression of sexual desire. You may be expressing an unconscious desire to be violated, conquered, or forced into forbidden territory. Some women have a desire to be sexually overpowered, but not hurt. It also indicates vengeful feelings toward the opposite sex. Alternatively, it suggests that you are feeling violated in some way. Something or someone is jeopardizing your self-esteem and emotional well-being. You feel that someone or something is being forced upon you. Dreams of rape are also common for those who were actually raped in their waking life.To see a rape being committed in your dream, denotes sexual dysfunction or uncertainty.
Sadism – To dream of sadism, indicates repressed anger, often from childhood. You may be trying to punish yourself for your misdeeds or past actions.
Sex Tape – To dream that you are making a sex tape means that you are sexually open to new things. You are comfortable with your sexuality. If you dream that a sex tape of you has been stolen or leaked, then it means that you are feeling over-exposed. Perhaps things are moving too fast or you are not fully comfortable in your relationship.
Sex Toy – To see or use a sex toy in your dream suggests that you are feeling unsatisfied in some area of your life, which may or may not relate to sex. There is a void in your life. Alternatively, the dream may be a play on words and that you are not taking sex seriously. Perhaps you have an immature attitude towards sex. More directly, the dream indicates your desires for a more gratifying and/or exciting sex life.
Sexuality – To dream about your own sexuality signifies the secrets and meaning of life. You may be dealing with life issues of birth, marriage, and/or death. Alternatively, it suggests that you are concerned about losing your sex appeal.
Sperm – To see sperm in your dream symbolizes masculinity and/or fertility. It also indicates the potential for growth and development.
Transsexual – To dream that you are transsexual symbolizes your anxieties or ambivalence about masculine/feminine roles or passive/aggressive behavior. You may be reluctant in dealing with these issues. If you are considering or awaiting transsexual surgery, then the dream may represent your anxieties and fears about the surgery, recovery, and life after surgery. To see a transsexual in your dream indicates that the feminine and masculine aspects of your Self has been damaged. You may be unwilling to confront your shadow self.
Testicles – To see testicles in your dream symbolize raw energy, power, fertility or sexual drive. The dream may refer to anxiety about your sexual prowess. Alternatively, it indicates that you will need a lot of nerve to achieve some task.
Threesome – To dream that you are involved in a threesome indicates that there is a missing component in your sex life. Pay attention to the gender of the participants in the threesome. If mostly female, then the dream implies that the missing component may pertain to some emotional aspect of sex. If mostly male, then the dream implies that some physical aspect of sex is lacking. Note that the dream does not necessarily mean that you want a threesome in your waking life.
Undress – To dream that you are undressing suggests that you need to reveal your true feelings and be open about them. Alternatively, it indicates your connection with your sexuality.
To see someone undressing indicates that you need to be aware of other people’s feeling. If you are undressing someone else, then it suggests you are trying to gain a better understanding of that person.
Vagina – If you are a woman and you see your vagina in your dream, then it refers to your femininity and/or attitude toward sex. Alternatively, dreaming about your vagina means fertility, life and warmth. To see another woman’s vagina in your dream signifies your sexual needs or urges. It may also suggest that a new project or idea is coming to fruition.
Vasectomy – If you are a man and dream that you have a vasectomy, indicates that you are expressing some dissatisfaction about your sex life. Alternatively it suggests some self-doubt or self-image issues.
Venereal Disease – To dream that you have a venereal disease, indicates some sort of contamination, either physical or emotional. You may feel vulnerable in a relationship. Alternatively, it signifies a fear of sex or an imbalance in sexual energy.
Virgin – To dream that you are a virgin symbolizes purity and potential. Note that the dream may not necessarily mean actual physical virginity, but could also represent emotional innocence. In particular, if you are not a virgin but dream that you are one, then it signifies past regret or remorse. You need to stop dwelling on the past and look toward the future. To dream that someone is a virgin, indicates integrity and honesty. You may have an ideal that you are tying to attain.
Vulva – To see a vulva in your dream signifies your creative energy.
Wife Swapping – To dream about wife swapping suggests that you are in a rut and want to add some spice to your sex life. You want to be more sexually adventurous. Consider the couple who you are swapping with for additional significance.
Metaphors and Figures of Speech about Sex
Consider these common idioms related to or referring to sex that may or may not make sense in the context of your dream. You may think of others which can help you determine what your sexual dreams mean to you.
- A sex object (seen only as someone to have sex with and not for their character or personality).
- Better than sex (extremely satisfying or enjoyable).
- The battle of the sexes (the disagreements that exist between men and women because of their differences).
Questions to ask yourself to interpret your dream of having Sex
- Who am I having sex with?
- Am I emotionally engaged with my dream partner or is it just physical?
- What sexual act am I performing or seeing?
- Am I enjoying it?
- Is it passionate or do I find it to be dull and unexciting?
- Is it fast or slow?
- What parts of the body are involved?
- Who is doing what to whom?
- Where is the act being performed?
- Is it something that I do or would consider doing in waking life? If not, why not?
- Who initiated the sex?